جب خرگوش جِتنے نہ پائے: شکست نے مجھے حقیقی قسمت دینا سکھایا

میرا دفتر، رات کو تقریر بارش محسوس ہوتا تھا۔ میرا سامنے چینز لَفٹ نام کا کھلاڑن منظر، بار بار شکست پر متاثر۔ دل دھڑکتا، لecz رقم تو زبردست نہ تھी—مطلب تو صرف ‘جِتنّا’ تھा۔

اس خاموش رات ميں، اچانك اندر اُلجھن بنى۔

میرا علم: نفسية مستعملین اور جذباتي صحت، مجھे بتاتا تھا: شکست فاشلِئن نہيں، بلکه ‘ڈاؤٹ’ (ڈائرِٹ)۔

پر اس بار؟ نظام نافع ثابت ہوا— مَيں صرف فتح حاصل کرنے والٰى تَربُّصَت عادت بنالئياً تَرا.

قابليتِ تحكم کي وهم

راتوں بالآخر ‘دوباره شروع’ پر انگلٗيوں پر روٗؤندا لمحۂ بازدید: آيا فتح محض مقصد ني؟ مجھ پر عقیدة لوئيس طلب كرتى ته، ياد آيا: ‘خوش‌قدرّتي والا خرگوش’ — جو ظاهرًا فتح سे زندگي نه دي, بلکه موجودگي ميں معنى لايتى!

تو مجھنے غريب حركت كى: روكن. مزید دور هلني لاء ذهن ميں الجوء: اس كولنديء واقعيتي معنى كيا ؟

• دوسرी سونائيد؟ اي.
• رفتار؟ بالكمل.
• درجات كيه هميسي؟ اي، نتيجه ني، ليكن حصّة.

معنى واپس لين‏ـاي‏ـك

Panic of Loss (Kahneman & Tversky) – عام طور پر زندگي فيزيولوجي طور پريشان كرتى هي۔ Peculiarly, kya hum gain ko dobara define kar saktay hain? The moment I stopped trying to win, something unexpected happened:

• My anxiety faded.
• My mind cleared.
• And for once—I noticed the little things: the gentle animation of moonlit bamboo leaves on screen; the soft strumming of guqin music; even my own breath slowing down as if syncing with the rhythm of play.

This wasn’t about luck or strategy anymore—it was about presence. About choosing to be where you are without needing permission from results.

And then it hit me: The real prize wasn’t gold coins or bonus rounds—it was peace. The kind that doesn’t come from winning—but from surrendering to the process without demanding proof it’s worth it.*

The next morning, instead of logging in again immediately, i opened my journal and wrote: “Today is not about triumph. Today is about showing up.”*

Games Are Mirrors — Not Machines

We often treat games as machines designed solely for reward delivery—but they’re also mirrors. They reflect our inner states: ambition when we push too hard; fear when we avoid failure; hope when we try again after loss.r

After that night, I began designing small rituals around play—not performance:r • Set a timer (15 mins max) — no more.r • Choose one game based on mood—not odds.r • End with three breaths before closing rthe app.r

No stats tracked. No goals set.rJust space.r And slowly… joy returned—not as an achievement—but as a companion.r

You Don’t Need To Win To Be Luckyr

In psychology,meaning-making is linked directly to well-being (Frankl’s logotherapy). When we assign significance—even to loss—we find resilience.r

The rabbit didn’t bring me wealth that night.rBut it brought me clarity:rA reminder that luck isn’t always measured by winnings,rbut by how gently you return to yourself after falling short.r

If you’re tired from chasing wins,rtry this:rNext time you lose,rpause.rLook at your screen not with frustration,rbut curiosity:r”What does this moment want me to notice?“r

You might be surprised how many gifts come wrapped in disappointment—especially when you stop demanding gold coins first.